"Nineteen things I’ve learned before I turned nineteen.
1. Always carry $5 and a lighter with you (even if you don’t smoke).
2. Ask every person you meet how their day is going. Genuinely ask with the soul intention of learning how their day is. Ask the coffee shop employee. Ask the person next to you in line at Walmart. Ask your distant friend. Ask everyone.
3. Take many photos of yourself. Take photos of yourself when you’re happy. Take photos of yourself when you’re sad. Take photos of yourself because there are millions of trees in the world, and we all look at the same sky, but there is only one of you.
4. Stay in contact with your parents. Try not to hate them. They are the reason you have the ability to feel anything at all. Try not to hate your parents.
5. Opening your skin will not set your demons free. Open your heart. Open your mind. Open your hands.
6. Nobody knows anybody completely. That’s okay.
7. Be gentle, but be aggressive. Take a stand. Nobody hears your voice if you stay silent.
8. Respect everybody. We are all humans trying to survive. We all deserve respect.
9. Wearing black will ALWAYS make you feel better about yourself.
10. Always give tips, whether it be a couple extra dollars or a piece of mind. You never know how much you could be helping someone.
11. Change is the only thing consistent in life. Do not allow that bother you. Embrace chance and move with life, whichever direction it chooses to take you.
12. Smile often. Smile at strangers. Smile at your friends. Smile when nobody is looking and you’re alone in your bedroom. Smile when somebody is rambling to you.
13. Body image means nothing. Your body is merely just a seatbelt in the car. Your body is here to protect you. You choose the direction you go, and your body will not hold you back. Only you can hold yourself back.
14. Don’t hold grudges. Don’t allow yourself to hate anybody. Forgive them. Learn to love them for the person you never got to see them to be. Believe that a beautiful human exists in that person. Wish them well.
15. Drink orange juice. Lots of it.
16. Don’t allow the opinions of others to choose your destiny. We are all simply trying to live our own life.
17. Sing all the time. Sing off key. Sing in a silly voice. Sing like you’re on stage. Sing no matter who is around. Singing is breathing for the soul. Sing.
18. Take time to think. Write your feelings down. Write letters to the people you love. Texting is overrated and not as heartfelt as a nice handwritten letter.
19. Live for yourself. Breathe for yourself. Do everything in your life for nobody but you. This is your life. This is it."
I moved into the city recently. I have found that I am no longer as spiritual as I used to be and I recognize this. I want to do yoga and meditate again, but I just am having a hard time focusing and motivating myself to do so. Also, I live with my boyfriend and he doesn't practice ever which makes it easier for me not to. Do you have any suggestions?
1. First thing when you wake up in the morning: laugh. It doesn’t matter what you are thinking or how you are feeling. Force yourself to laugh. Louder! Weirder! Maybe you’ll laugh at the ridiculous fake laugh.
2. Keep your attention with you. When you traverse the city, be where you are. Too many citygoers get lost in cellphones and meandering trains of thought. Instead, notice the aliveness of the city around you. The buildings, the people, the flow, it’s all a mass of innumerable causes that web together mysteriously. Nothing happens for any one reason.
3. Accept impermanence. Everything that has come will at some point go. Your body, this mind, this world, all of it will vanish just as randomly as they appeared. Constantly remind yourself of this truth as often as necessary and ask yourself how you want to live with this knowledge.
4. Engage in meditative practice daily. Don’t give yourself enough time to say no. Just surprise yourself now and then by sitting down and setting a timer and meditating. If you can meditate at a certain time every day, it’s kind of like eating a meal at regular times. When it gets to be that time of day, you’ll be hungry for the meditation.
5. Read spiritually inspiring words, be they scriptures or spiritual books. Here’s a recommended reading list.
A supportive group is helpful as well for some beginners. Finding a yoga studio, meditation center, or something along those lines near you may be useful.
Namaste sis :)